Leaving a Legacy

In our Sunday Night class, we are studying about the Kingdom Woman (by Chrystal Evans Hurst), and this evening, the lesson is again on the Legacy of a Kingdom Woman. In the video and lesson, Chrystal's mom shares stories of her mother and grandmother and the legacy they left to her to be able to be content with little, and to not let emotions be governed by the situation.

Let me tell you about a legacy that I have watched this week. This week, my husband's great-uncle passed away unexpectedly. It was very tragic, and I knew that this family, who had already been through such loss just not long ago, would be devastated.  Going over to Mamaw's house (that's southern for Grandmother) I saw sadness, yes, but I also saw great strength. She had lost her brother, but she would see him again.

Whenever Mamaw answered a phone call, she told how very blessed she was. When she answered people's questions, she did so with politeness and courage. Another close family member at some point said 'I just can't do this' and her reply was this:

'You are just going to have to! You are just going to have to pick up and go. You have no choice, I have no choice. I am still going, even after I lost the other ones (she has also lost a husband, and son). I have no regrets. I know where he is.'

She told a cousin, that God would get her through. You see, Mamaw knew Somebody, and that Somebody had never forsaken her and He wasn't about to now. I heard the words of Job in Mamaw's attitude and words:

"The LORD gave and the LORD has taken away; may the name of the LORD be praised." Job 1:21


Oh that I could be as strong as she! Her strength is not her own, and she will tell you that. Her strength is found in Jesus Christ, her Savior. She knows she will see her brother again, and she hangs on to that promise.


Do you know the Sombody? The God of Creation? Do you know Jesus Christ as your Savior?


What kind of Legacy are you leaving for others? I pray I leave half the legacy Mamaw gave me!

Before I was a Mom

My son is going through teething, and a good nights sleep is becoming a distant memory. Sometimes I think about how it was before I was a mom...

Before I was a mom, my house was really clean. I didn't think it was, but it was!

Before I was a mom, a shower was a necessity, not a privilege.

Before I was a mom, laundry was never on the couch. I had made myself a rule that I would always have the front of the house free of laundry, now it's the best way for me to get it done.

Before I was a mom, what worried me at night was what I might do the next day, or perhaps what someone thought about me. Now I worry if my son is breathing, in pain, hot, cold, and ask myself if I am a bad mom because I do this, or that. 

Before I was a mom, I got 8 hours of sleep...8 hours!! Last night I had probably less than 4 broken hours.

Before I was a mom, I loved to do different things to my semi-long hair. Now I feel pretty dressed up in a ponytail. 

Before I was a mom, my husband and I went on a date night weekly. Now, we still do that, but with a 5 month old that may, or may not allow the said date night to be longer than 5 minutes.

This sounds depressing, I know. But let me tell you some more things about before I was a mom.

Before I was a mom, I never knew how happy I would be to see my son smile, laugh, sit up, etc. 

Before I was a mom, I never had someone raise their hands to me, because they wanted me, and only me. 

Before I was a mom, I never voluntarily stayed awake just to look at the sweet thing laying beside my bed.

Before I was a mom, I never knew how much I needed to trust God. To simply put things into His hands, because I have no control over the situation.

Before I was a mom, I never knew this strange new kind of love I have for my son. I look into his face, and I would do absolutely anything for him. It also made me realize just how much love God must have for us!

Before I was a mom, I never knew how much I would love being a mom! 

I am so thankful the Lord let me be a mom. Some days I wish I could just get one more hour of sleep, or that I had a half hour just to clean the bathroom, but I wouldn't trade these past 6 months for all the sleep, or the cleanest house in the world!

The Fellowship of the Believers (Lord of the Rings pun intended)

A while back (very long ago, seeing I haven't posted in almost 9 months!) I wrote an article about going to church. If you would like to read that post, you may do so here: http://ayouthpastorswife.blogspot.com/2013/09/back-to-basics-going-to-church.html. And here I am to post again on the same subject. It has been weighing heavy on my heart because here lately our church has seen pretty decent numbers on Sunday mornings, then less than 20 on Sunday night, and even our faithful members seem to find excuses to not come to Sunday School and Sunday Morning Worship. 

As usual, my husband and I (and now our cute little boy) were watching a pastor on one of our local channels that comes on, early Sunday morning. He was talking about the first church and used these verses:

Acts 2:41 Those who believed what Peter said were baptized and added to the church that day—about 3,000 in all.

42 All the believers devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching, and to fellowship, and to sharing in meals (including the Lord’s Supper), and to prayer.

⁴³ A deep sense of awe came over them all, and the apostles performed many miraculous signs and wonders. ⁴⁴ And all the believers met together in one place and shared everything they had. ⁴⁵ They sold their property and possessions and shared the money with those in need. ⁴⁶ They worshiped together at the Temple each day, met in homes for the Lord’s Supper, and shared their meals with great joy and generosity— ⁴⁷ all the while praising God and enjoying the goodwill of all the people. And each day the Lord added to their fellowship those who were being saved.

This was a wonderful time for the early church. People were getting saved daily, and worshiping daily. Worshiping daily?! We can hardly stand to get together at the most 3 times a week! They met together, fellowshiped together, and had corporate worship in the Temple each day. They didn't mind worshiping in public even if that meant persecution.


I guess my question is, What reason did you not go to church today? I know there are reasons to stay home. Maybe you are a shut in, or sick (ain't nobody got time for a stomach bug!), etc. However, I think we are too easily tempted to make excuses for why we can't come to church. My favorite one right now is the 'I didn't get to bed until 'such and such' time in the morning, therefore, I needed my sleep.' As a new mom that is happy to get a solid 4-5 hours, this annoys me so much. Rant aside, I know it's easy to let other things become a priority: sleep, family coming over, work, school, but how shallow do those things sound when the early church was meeting together daily with the threat of persecution over their heads?


I don't say this to make myself look great. I am also tempted to put other things before church, Bible, prayer, but the sermon this morning, and scripture, remind me that I should count it a blessing to have fellowship with my fellow believers.

How to Have a Passion for Purity

About to enter the dating scene? Already dating but don't want to go too far?  Sometimes it's so hard to know how far is too far, and what rules you should live by. A conference told you one thing, your boyfriend/girlfriend is telling you another. What's a girl (or boy!) supposed to do?

Last night during our Bible study we came across this verse from Psalm 119:9

How can a young person stay pure?

    By obeying your word.

That's it. Those are the rules. Do you want to know how to keep your relationship from going 'too far' then get into God's Word and see what He says. Not only that, but you have to do what He says!

I loved the Joshua Harris books: I kissed Dating Goodbye, and Boy Meets Girl and highly recommend them to those wanting to go a different route than most. However, when it came time for my own love story things didn't go quite according to how I pictured they would. For starters, I was in Thailand, and my then boyfriend was in the States. We didn't physically date until 9 months after we met through a mutual friend on Facebook. This meant that all those 'rules' that the books and conferences suggested had no meaning for my particular situation. What did we do?

I think it helped that both he and I had a desire for purity. If your boyfriend or fiance doesn't have the same desire for purity that you have, then you don't need to be in the relationship. More than likely, he will cause you to do things that you don't want to do, and to go farther than you want to go. So, having a significant other that has a relationship with God (and not just one that says he's a Christian but doesn't live like one) is vital for a pure relationship. 

Second, we told each other that we would put God first in the relationship instead of each other. We then got on the same page as far as once we did meet, what we would do physically. Now, here comes the tricky part, because you have to decide what you will do to keep your relationship pure. For us, we stayed where people were, held hands, but never kissed. Actually, my husband never told me he loved me until he asked me to marry him, and we never kissed until our wedding day. This is what we did, and once we set up those guidelines for ourselves it lifted the burden of knowing whether or not we were going too far. It allowed trust to be built between each other. Since we often skyped while we were alone, knowing each others heart and intentions made it where we never ventured into the 'unknown' (you know, the after marriage stuff) or 'too far' category.

I said all that to say, you have to read the Bible, you have to set the guidelines with yourself and with your significant other. You both need to be in the Word. Because it doesn't matter how many conferences you go to, or books you read, your heart needs to be in the right place. 

Wisdom From my Mom

Mother's Day is this Sunday, and I thought I would share some wisdom my mom has taught me over the years that I hope to use with my own little boy. Also as a youth pastor's wife who deals with teenagers/kids a lot I see just how important some of her wisdom is when it comes to parenting!
Note: I am in no way trying to tell you I have parenting figured out (because, I really don't have a clue!), nor am I saying I was raised perfectly. These are some things that I feel that my mom got right, and I believe she has done her very best.

Mom First, Friend Second

I am guessing this must be a hard thing to do, but I am so thankful that my mom used this motto with us. So many parents today want to be buddies with their kids instead of dealing with their behavior and being their mom. Because my mom didn't put up with some 'rebellious' actions of mine as a 13 year old, she and I have a great relationship today. She disciplined me then, so we could be friends as adults. I pray I do the same with my little one. I don't want to 'talk down' to him, but I also don't want to allow him to do wrong things because I just don't want to hurt his feelings.

Never Talk Bad About Your Kids in Front of Them

My mom would shake her head every time she heard a mother say things like 'He/She's impossible.' 'I can't wait until school starts again.', 'They just drive me insane!', etc. Mom always said that of course kids are going to act badly if that's all that's expected of them! Not saying you won't have challenging kids (I know I was a bit of one!), but my mom felt that tearing your kids down wasn't the answer, love and discipline was.

Teach Your Kids That Learning About God is a Pleasure, Not a Chore!

To be honest, this is not something I ever remember mom saying out loud, but she instilled in us a love for learning about God. To this day I enjoy discussing scripture and doctrine with people because my mom made Bible study not only a habit, but a joy. We would gather as a family about 3 times a day to either read Proverbs, a chapter we were doing for our Bible curriculum, and then in the evening before we went to bed. We didn't just listen to her read, but we got to take turns, listen to it being read by actors on CD, or sometimes just discuss what we read.

Lead by Example

Sometimes parents come to my husband and I and wonder why their kids are doing things that aren't right, when they themselves aren't living the life they should. You see, I knew that before (or maybe a little after) I got up in the morning my mom had Bible study and prayer. I knew this because we would sometimes catch her in the act. She didn't just expect us to spend time in the Word, she did herself! She was always willing to volunteer at the church, made sure that when we cleaned the church we did it out of love for the Lord not just for people's praise, or for money we made. You could tell she lived this out, because she would always think of extra things she could do to make it cleaner, more organized, etc. She also took on the church's youth even though she isn't being paid a dime.  I clearly saw by example, and I have to say that makes me a bit intimidated thinking that I am going to be under my own child's watchful eyes just as I watched my mom to see if she would 'walk the walk'.

Thank you mom, for being my mom first, and now my friend, for never talking bad about me in front of others, and never making me feel like you didn't want me around. Thank you for helping me develop a love for God, and showing me, not just telling me, when it came to doing things for God. I love you, Mom!

Feel free to comment nuggets of wisdom your own mother shared, or showed you!

I have to love them?

Last night's lesson was on connecting to friends and foes. I'm all about friends, I love talking about loyalty, being there for someone, and having like-minded believers as my closest friends. What is not so fun to talk about are enemies. I mean, some enemies are just people who aren't that fun to be around, whereas there is this one person that I have such a hard time forgiving, and I think it's harder because I know that this person is supposed to be a born again believer. The person actually is in a great spiritual position, but has used it as a means to try to control and manipulate people.I actually wrote a post a while back on forgiveness, where I felt like I was getting to where I had forgiven that person (http://ayouthpastorswife.blogspot.com/2013/07/forgiveness.html). Fast-forward to a month ago, and I was told of something that made all those feelings and anger surged within me.  Now, especially after this lesson, I feel like I am back to square one with forgiveness.

Loving our Enemies

My husband used 2 verses to describe how we are to treat our enemies, and one really stood out, John 13:34-35:
A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another. By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.”

Ouch! We are to love each other (enemies included) with the same undying, sacrificial love that Jesus loved us! By this, not by how we evangelize, or by how many times we go to church, (even though these are amazing things!) will people know that we are Jesus' disciples. Love will be the testimony that others see. I know that I need some work in this area, but how can we make this practical?

How to Love our Enemies

Luke 6: 27-31

“But I say to you who hear, Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who abuse you. To one who strikes you on the cheek, offer the other also, and from one who takes away your cloak do not withhold your tunic either. Give to everyone who begs from you, and from one who takes away your goods do not demand them back. And as you wish that others would do to you, do so to them."

These verses offer some practical help when it comes to showing love to your enemies, however, this does not make it any easier! To show love, we are to first pray for them. Actually this is the easiest of all to do, because it doesn't consist of having contact with that person. However, if you have not begun to love that person as a fellow believer in Christ, or if unsaved as a person in need of Jesus, then you may find it to be a bit difficult to pray blessings on that person, and that God would work in their lives.
The next practical thing is a more difficult thing to do, if that person does something to you then don't reciprocate it.To not shout back hurtful words, or want to get even can go a long ways in your enemies eyes. (Prov. 15:1). The next thing the Bible says is that we are to give, even when they have taken things from us. Perhaps the person you despise most is having financial difficulty now, or needs help in some form or fashion. Helping that person, and giving to them despite what they've done, may just be the thing that brings them to Christ, or back in a close relationship with Him. Even if it's not, and this is the hard part, we must do it anyway because it is right. Christ didn't just die for the people who would accept him, he died and loved everyone. If we are to love with the love of Christ, we can't withhold doing good because we dislike a person.

I have written this post not just for helping you, my reader, but to help me be more accountable. If I write this, and believe it, then I need to live it. If I want a closer relationship with Christ, then I need to be willing to love not just the people that love me but the ones who aren't quite so easy to love. 

Big News!

You might have thought that I had forgotten my blog, but the truth is, a lot has happened in the past couple of months. The biggest thing to happen, we learned about 2 days before Christmas, my husband and I are going to have a baby! We are excited to start this parenting journey, although I will admit I am pretty scared as well. I didn't post at first because I felt pretty sick early on, but now that I am headed into my second trimester, I am getting some of my energy back. Hopefully that means more blog posts!
Soon I will get back to my regular blogging, and I will even have a guest blogger, but I just wanted to write and say that I haven't forgotten y'all.
May God Bless, and as always, feel free to ask questions, who knows, it might be included in a blog post!